Speaking of Suicide

A site for suicidal individuals and their loved ones, survivors, mental health professionals, & the merely curious

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Do You Wish You Could Go to Sleep and Never Wake Up?

“If only I could go to sleep forever.” “I want to die.” “I wish I’d never been born.” Do you ever have thoughts like these, but you do not want to kill yourself? Many people do. They want their life to end, but they don’t want to end their life. ...

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12 Ways to Get Therapy if You Can’t Afford It

Many people who have suicidal thoughts or other challenges need psychotherapy, but cannot afford it. There are options, though, for receiving therapy without giving up other necessities or going into debt. Here are a dozen: 1. Contact your health insurance company, if you have insurance. Most health insurance companies in ...

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Let’s (Really) Talk about Suicide

In a week when two celebrities, Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain, died by suicide within days of each other, so did hundreds of other people in the U.S. One of them was named Flinn, a classmate of mine in high school. On Flinn’s Facebook page, an outpouring of sympathetic posts, ...

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In Defense of Suicide Prevention

Many people take offense at my stance on suicide prevention. They send me angry emails. They post challenging comments on this site. A common argument is that people should be free to die by suicide without intervention by others, no matter what: “For some people there is little to be ...

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When Suicidal Thoughts Do Not Go Away

The popular image of someone who is in danger of suicide goes like this: A person has suicidal thoughts. It’s a crisis. The person gets help, and the crisis resolves within days or weeks. That’s the popular image, and thankfully it does happen for many people. But for others, suicidal ...

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10 Things to Say to a Suicidal Person

Many people desperately want to know what to say – and what not to say – to someone who is thinking of suicide. The article 10 Things Not to Say to a Suicidal Person is SpeakingOfSuicide.com’s most popular post. Almost a half-million people have viewed it in the last 2½ ...

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Language Matters: Committed Suicide vs. Completed Suicide vs. Died by Suicide

People in the suicide prevention field discourage the use of the term “committed suicide.” The word “committed” (when followed by a noun instead of “to”) is generally reserved for crimes or acts that many people view as immoral. Someone commits burglary, or murder, or rape, or perjury, or adultery – ...

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How to Navigate Confidentiality and Contact with Family After a Client’s Suicide

The ethical and legal obligations of confidentiality remain after a psychotherapist’s client dies, but how much? There is a lot of confusion around this. Here, I address what therapists can say or do with the client’s family while honoring the client’s confidentiality. First, be warned: I am not a lawyer, ...

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HelpingTheSuicidalPerson.com: A New Website for Professionals

  On the final page of my upcoming book, I made a promise. Well, it wasn’t explicitly a promise, but it might as well have been one: “To learn more about how to help the suicidal person, visit this book’s companion website: www.helpingthesuicidalperson.com. The site contains information about books, trainings, ...

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“What Stops You from Killing Yourself?”

I advise my students to ask their suicidal clients, “What stops you? What stops you from killing yourself?” Some are horrified. They see this almost as a dare, as if they are saying to a hurting, suicidal person, If you really wanted to kill yourself, you would have done it ...

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